Ok Google……what does the color red symbolize?
“Red is the color of fire and blood, so it is associated with energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire and love. Red is a very emotionally intense color. It enhances human metabolism, increases respiration rate, and raises blood pressure.”
Red was the only color I could see and feel one morning after losing my patience with my two beautiful daughters. I screamed and I do mean “screamed” at them for not listening, for what felt like the one-millionth time, so loud I instantly received a debilitating migraine. Immediately I was filled with regret, disappointment, and so much self-doubt as a mama because good moms should never lose their patience right? I have never been more wrong. I stood there sobbing and asking my sweethearts to forgive me for my anything but positive behavior.
I was so frustrated and at the end of my rope. I felt like no one was listening to me. So what did I do? I went ahead and threw an adult temper tantrum.
I think steam came out of my ears as I had a real-life grown-up fit. A fit that got me right where I usually tell my daughters it will get them. With a consequence, tears, and an opportunity to see how we can learn from our negative actions.
This was not the kind of role model I wanted to be. I told myself there has to be a better way. A do as I do, lead as I lead kind of way that didn’t let me lose my patience. I was ready to learn from my actions. I made it my mission not to be so hard on myself and no matter what, take a positive approach at all times.
A positive mind always waits for happiness, health, and a happy ending in absolutely every situation.
I was going about it all wrong. I was being impatient rushing my sweethearts to get what I was trying to teach them on my time frame and not theirs. Somehow, I had lost my happy thoughts, my positive approach in the heat of the moment. I had forgotten, that as mom, we have such a monumental impact on our family’s lives. We ultimately help guide and steer our tribe in the right direction. So a positive and patient mama mindset is essential. It will breed confidence and courage into our little’s character. A positive mindset can change the world for the better one positively nourished child at a time.
I believe it is important to remember that most days will not go as planned. We can not choose when our children will completely understand the things we are teaching them. It’s okay to ask for help. The key for me was learning that what I can control is where my focus should be.
Positive discipline helps you find your strengths and weaknesses as a parent. I constantly fail but leap at the next opportunity to get it right!
According to the Mayo Clinic, a positive attitude has been proven to increase your life span, lower rates of depression, give greater resistance to the common cold, give better psychological and physical well-being, better cardiovascular health, and equip one with better coping skills during hardships and times of stress. For the days I feel my positive charge fading, I hope and trust for grace to grow my patience as I teach and guide my children; along with leaning on my rock star of a husband for support. We can do this mamas, together let’s inspire and empower our tribes one positive action at a time.